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Welcome to One Day You Will Roar
What’s it like to imagine living a life without fear? To wake up one day and to think, “Maybe I can get through the whole day without the trauma and anxiety that seem to haunt every other day.” That...
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Are You At War With Your Body?
There was a time when Cory believed she was crazy. Stories of abuse and a family empty of joy, kindness, and sharing chased each other through her cluttered mind. It didn’t help that her sister’s...
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How Can You Move Beyond Abuse?
Amy had been holding on for too long. She didn’t want to deal with it, the past, the flood of emotions that were sure to come. She wanted to hold back, but another part of her, the bigger part, craved...
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3 Stages of Discernment: When Is It Safe To Share About Abuse?
When you embark on a journey of healing your childhood sexual abuse, you may be tempted to talk to anyone and everyone about your experiences. But sexual abuse isn’t something you talk about over...
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3 Steps To Escape The Cage Of Abuse
Abuse – all forms of it (physical, mental, emotional, sexual, financial, etc.) – is pervasive. It can still constrict and limit your present day life, even if the abuse happened decades ago. The...
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How Being Overly Protective Can Limit You
How often do you get prickly when someone comes towards you? I call it being the “invisible porcupine” and know this pattern very well myself. You know where these quills come from? Your past abuse....
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Money and Abuse
Abuse is shrouded in secrecy and shame. It’s usually not talked about and it has a way of twisting around everything good in your life to seem bad or wrong. Money is the same way: shrouded in secrecy...
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How To Stop Disappearing and Start Enjoying Sex!
In the midst of a sexually abusive experience, we disappear. We become invisible. We retreat so far into ourselves that sometimes, we even dissociate. It is our best coping strategy for avoiding the...
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Unlock Your Body with the 5 Elements of Intimacy
The Lockdown: What Is It? In facilitating classes around the world, I’ve seen again and again how people go into “lockdown” to defend, protect or otherwise try to take care of their bodies in response...
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The Invisible Cage Of Abuse: Protection Or Jailer?
During an experience of abuse, your resourceful young self used coping strategies to try and protect yourself from the pain. These behaviors served you at the time. They were your army of protection...
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How Your “Plan B” Is Killing Your Relationship
You spill coffee down the front of your white blouse on your drive to work. But it’s okay, you have a Plan B: two extra “backup” blouses hanging in your office just in case. Your electricity goes out...
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5 Steps to Receiving More Of Everything
Meet Clara. Forty-two years old and married for half her life, Clara came to me complaining of a lack of satisfaction in her relationship. She wanted to feel loved and adored yet admitted to being a...
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5 Keys To Unlock Yourself From Conflict (And The Trauma Response)
You get into a fight with your partner. Again. You can’t figure it out. You’re both intelligent, educated people who pride yourselves on good communication. But when one or both of you get triggered –...
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4 Ways To Stop The Language of Abuse
Growing up I learned what I call the “Language of Abuse.” Not only did I experience physical and sexual abuse for the first two decades of my life, I also experienced daily mental and emotional abuse...
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The 3 Biggest Myths About Domestic Violence
Domestic violence is an epidemic. To put an end to it, we must see through the myths that run rampant about this form of abuse. Myth #1: It’s not a problem Let me share some statistics with you about...
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A New Perspective On PTSD
PTSD is known as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It’s a label used to describe how your body locks in a pattern of abuse and trauma that gets repeated again and again. It may be 2016, yet with PTSD...
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3 Questions For Moving Beyond Anxiety
Are you a head tripper? You know, you get caught in your head, worrying about what happened or what might happen; concerned that what’s happening right now is bad or wrong or somehow not enough. It’s...
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The Handcuffs of Unhappiness
Does happiness seem out of reach? Like a rare bird that every once in a while comes and perches outside your window yet never, ever, allows you to touch it, let alone hold it? That’s how it felt to me...
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Life After Abuse (Part 1): When Abuse Rears Its Ugly Head
Often, by the time my clients come to see me, the abuse they experienced has ended. It may have been an isolated incident in their past or many experiences of abuse over decades. Either way, when they...
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Life After Abuse (Part 2): Welcome To Radical Aliveness
Imagine waking up with a spring in your step, happy to be alive and ready to see what else is possible for the day. From start to finish, your day is full of choice based on your desires. From that...
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